关于申请，10件家长需要了解的事情

这是来自Middlebury College的10件家长需要了解的事情，看看美国名校对申请是怎么说的吧！

Top 10 things for parents to remember

It is good, of course, that students and parents approach this process jointly, but we all know that at its best, the process itself can prepare students for the independence that they will experience in college.The following list contains some possible symptoms of parental over-involvement.

我们很高兴作为家长的你能关注孩子的申请，但是我们更相信这个过程如果让他们独立体验，能让他们更好的融入未来的大学生活。下面的这些建议，是给那些走进或将要走进误区的家长们。

10. Remember that this process is not about you. No matter how similar your children may be to you, they need to make their own decisions and observations.

无论孩子多像你，请记住，这不是你的申请，孩子们需要有自己的思想和决定。


9. Support and encouragement are more appropriate than pressure and unsolicited advice. Allow your children to seek you out and restrain yourself from imposing your viewpoint upon them.

请支持你的孩子，多鼓励他们。让他们自己寻找答案，而不是把你的经验强加给他们。

8. Do not use the words “we” or “our” when referring to your children’s application process. Those little pronouns are surefire indicators that you have become too involved.

在询问孩子的申请进展时，请不要说“我们”或者“我们的”，那会让我们（AO）怀疑孩子的独立性。

7. Help them prepare but let them perform.Encourage them to sleep well and put thought into a college visit, but once on campus, step back and let them drive the experience. This is good practice for the next phase of their lives - adulthood.

协助他们作准备但绝不代替。比如你可以带他们来参观学校，到学校后你就只需要站在身后耐心等待，让他们自己去体验，这是成长的过程。

6. Encourage your children to make their own college appointments, phone calls, and e-mails. When a family arrives at an admissions office, it’s important that the student approach the reception desk, not the parents. We notice! Having control over those details gives them a sense of ownership. Don’t be tempted by the excuse that “I’m just saving them time” or “they are too busy” - students will learn to appreciate all the steps it takes to make big things happen if they do them.

参观预约、电话、EMAIL……让孩子自己完成这一切，而不是你，别说“我只是为他们节省时间”“他们太忙”。这种借口并不能真正帮助他们。相信我们，亲自去做，这会让他们有主人翁意识，会让他们学会感激并懂得怎样为未来的每一个重要经历做决定。

5. Allow your children to ask the questions. They have their own set of issues that are important to them.

请让他们提问！对各种事情他们有自己的观点，请让他们保持下去，这很重要。

4. Prepare your children for disappointment. For many students this is the first time they could face bad news. Remind them there is no perfect school and that admissions decisions do not reflect on their worth as people or your worth as parents.

请教会他们面对失败。或许你的孩子很优秀，从未遇到挫折，但是申请可能会让他们迎来人生中第一个坏消息。请让他们知道，没有所谓最完美的学校，即使收到拒信，也不会让他们或者作为父母的你们丢脸。

3. Never complete any portion of the college application -- yes, even if it is just busy work. That also goes for friends, siblings, counselors, and secretaries. For many colleges, that overstep would be viewed as a violation of the honor policy at the school.

绝对不要为孩子代办任何申请事物，即使他忙得不可开交。这一条对朋友、亲属或者你的秘书都一样适用。对很多学校来说，这种越权是对学校的侮辱。

2. Do not let stereotypes or outdated information steer your children away from schools in which they would otherwise have an interest. Times have changed and so have colleges.

不要用你的陈旧观点或者道听途说的过时消息影响孩子对学校的看法，这或许就让他们错过了最适合的学校。时间能改变一切，请给你的孩子一个自己探索的机会。

And the Number One thing for parents to remember about the college search process is:

1. Never, ever, during a college visit buy that souvenir sweatshirt or T-shirt from the bookstore in your size – it’s a dead giveaway!

最后一条是关于参观学校的提示。绝对不要从bookstore购买我们学校的纪念衬衫，即使你很喜欢而它又刚好很适合你穿——因为它们是免费的。

源于网络