11月7日，加拿达外国语学校雅居乐校区一楼演艺厅座无虚席，来自加拿大国际教育机构下属各幼儿园、学校的几百名老师齐聚一堂，共同聆听一场大家都仰慕已久的讲座。
On the evening of November 7th, teachers from different schools in CIEO came to CLS-A to attend a long-awaited lecture about positive discipline.
加拿达外国语学校的老师们早已拜读过美国学者简•尼尔森博士、斯蒂文•格伦博士以及琳•洛特合著的有关正面管教的书——《教室里的正面管教》，老师们还曾结合自己的实际教学进行了分享。此次能够有机会就在加拿达外国语学校的校园里听到美国正面管教协会导师、美国正面管教协会家长讲师、美国正面管教协会学校讲师徐燕玲老师的分享，大家都感到既激动又期待。
Teachers at CLS-A had read a famous book Positive Discipline in the Classroom, which was written by Dr. Jane Nelsen, Dr. Lynn Lott, and H. Stephen Glenn. Teachers shared what they learned and what they thought according to their teaching experiences. All the teachers were looking forward to the lecture in their own campus. We are very excited to welcome Miss Xu Yanling from America Positive Discipline Association to share her ideas.
讲座一开始，徐老师就和大家强调这只是一次分享会，分享正面管教到底是什么？怎样进行正面管教？正面管教的意义在哪里？
At the beginning of this lecture, Miss Xu emphasized that the lecture is just about to share some ideas on the questions like: What is positive discipline? How do you utilize positive discipline? What is the meaning of positive discipline?
首先，徐老师解释道，正面管教的意思是正面管理教养教育，是一种鼓励的模式，是一种思维模式的转变。而正面管教并不是一味地纵容，教育者必须做到和善而坚定的并行，允许孩子犯错，因为犯错是学习的最好机会。在与孩子交流并意图纠正其行为之前，先要和孩子的内心进行联结。让孩子从教育者身上找到安全感、认同感与归属感。
Miss Xu explained that positive discipline involves educating and encouraging children positively, which is very different from spoiling children. The educators must be soft and understanding while allowing children to make mistakes, because they can learn from their mistakes. Before correcting the student’s mistakes, educators must try to understand them first. This allows the children to feel safety, identity, and belonging.
在与大家的互动中，徐老师和大家做了一个游戏：两个人一组，一方想尽办法去打开对方握紧的拳头。结果很多人都失败了，应为当他用尽力气去掰对方的拳头时，对方会用更大的力气攥紧拳头。而成功的几个人则是独辟蹊径，和对方击掌或者夸赞对方。在互动中，大家体会到：与孩子交流纠正前先联结。
Miss Xu played games with the teachers to help them understand the theories and to make the connection before correcting the student’s mistakes.
徐老师语言亲切自然，让人如沐春风。听众席上的老师们也都听得津津有味，整个会场时而静默沉思，时而热烈讨论。大家的目的只有一个：学会用正面管教的方式来让我们的孩子变得更优秀。
There’s a good atmosphere during the lecture. Miss Xu was graceful and professional. We learned a lot from her. With this teaching method, we hope our students can continue to be excellent.
