SK分享在2016年,我们总能找到改善家庭教育的办法

2016年01月15日 SK英国皇家少儿英语番禺校区


2016年来了,又到了做新一年计划的时候了。虽然这些计划看上去很完备,但你可能很快就会将之抛诸脑后了。但是,在你内心深处一定仍然期待着新年新气象,期待生活也有机会掀开新的一页,变得更美好。


在所有的新计划里你最期待的也许是育儿生活的改善。作为父母,我们常常会感到力不从心,甚至濒临崩溃。每当你把育儿生活搞得一团糟时,你总会很担忧孩子未来学业糟糕、负债累累甚至不得不接受长期心理治疗。


当然,在2016年,我们总能找到改善家庭教育的办法。以下教大家一些值得收藏的育儿计划:


1. Yell less. 少对孩子吼叫

It's hard to keep a normal tone when Junior's scrawling the wallwith indelible Sharpie marker. Yelling's hard to stop, especially if yourparents were yellers (like practically everyone's). Resolve to break that cyclethis year. Take deep breaths, whisper instead of scream, and remember: yellingonly guarantees they'll hear you louder.

当孩子用记号笔在墙上涂鸦,留下怎么都擦不掉的痕迹时,很少有父母能保持冷静,仍旧用平静的语调和孩子说话。

你很难停止对着孩子大吼大叫,尤其是如果你在童年也有类似的经历。

尝试在2015年打破这种恶性循环吧。你可以先做个深呼吸,然后用轻言细语取代尖叫,并且记住:大喊大叫唯一能保证的效果是孩子觉得你很吵。




2. Praise more. 不要吝啬称赞孩子

You probably live containing the chaos of lost shoes and spilledmilk and dinnertime and laundry. It's easy to forget the positive in betweenthe missing socks."Wow, you worked hard on that!" can mean the worldto a kid, especially if you've spent the morning yelling at him about theindelible Sharpie on the wall.

你的生活也许一片混乱,一会儿弄丢了鞋子,一会儿又打翻了牛奶,一会儿又得洗衣做饭。在繁重家务活的压力下,你很容易就丧失了称赞孩子的积极性。

但是,称赞孩子说“哇!你在(画画)这件事上真的很努力!”对孩子而言意义重大,尤其是如果你一早上都在为他涂鸦弄坏墙而大声吼叫的话。



3. Give more hugs. 多用拥抱来表达爱

It's also easy to forget the simple act of hugging. How often doyou touch your kids? Oxytocin from good big hug can help reset a crappy day, orget you both through another manic Monday morning.

在琐碎的家庭生活中,拥抱也是一个常常容易被遗忘的举动。

你还记得你与孩子身体接触的频率吗?给孩子来个大大的、充满爱的拥抱会促进荷尔蒙的分泌,进而使糟糕的一天变得美好起来,或者让你和孩子能够顺利度过一个抓狂的周一早晨。



4. Put down the phone. 放下手机,真正的陪伴孩子

Do not do something drastic like count how many times per dayyou log onto Facebook. That would just be depressing. Instead, put down yourphone and really listen: at the breakfast table, during dinner, at stoplights.Because you do check your phone at stoplights, don't you?

不要总是抱着手机不放,数你每天会登陆几次微博。这只会让孩子感到沮丧。

相反,你应该放下手机,真正地去聆听孩子——无论是在餐桌上还是灯下。因为你确实会在灯光下玩手机,不是吗?



5. Get outside as a family. 多进行家庭户外活动

Soccer practice doesn't count, people. Spending time outdoorsreally can make you healthier -- and help to put your hectic life on pause.Leave your phone in the car and pick an activity everyone can enjoy. Andremember: no one actually likes rollerblading.

注意:这里所说的家庭户外活动可不包括孩子的足球练习课。

花一些时间,和家人一起进行户外活动,能够确切地让你更健康,并且能把你从忙碌的生活中解脱出来。

把你的手机留在车里,然后选一项全家人都喜欢的活动来玩。请记住:其实没人喜欢滑旱冰。



6. Read more as a family. 多和家人共享阅读时光

You can never read too much. Maybe it means mom and dad doingMr. Brown Can Moo! Can You? together, or switching up poems from A Light in theAttic. Or maybe it means a family book club. In these hectic times, that couldmean you re-read The Scarlet Letter with your high school sophomore. It's good for you, dammit. And maybe you'll like it this time around.

阅读永无止境。父母应该和孩子一起共读《你能像布朗先生一样哞哞叫吗?》,或者谢尔•希尔弗斯坦的《阁楼上的光》中的童谣。或者父母还可以成立一个家庭图书俱乐部。

在繁忙的时候,你将可能因此有机会和你读高二的孩子一起重读《红字》。天哪,这真的对你很有益处。而且你这次会很喜欢这样做。



7. Stop saying "no." 请尝试不要拒绝孩子

Is it dangerous? Is it possibly damaging to people or property?Does it seriously impact the family running smoothly? If not, then try sayingyes.That might mean your toddler goes to Trader Joe's dressed as Batman, your5-year-old wears two different shoes, or your high schooler spends his entireallowance on video games. But that's OK -- the Batman costume will go away.Knowing that mom or dad respects his choices? That will stick around.

在对孩子的请求说“不”之前,先想想他的请求是不是很危险?是不是会伤害谁或是谁的财产?是不是会严重影响家庭的顺利运转?

如果这些问题的答案全都是“否”,那么请尝试不要拒绝孩子。

这可能意味着你正在学步的孩子会在去超市时打扮成蝙蝠侠,或是你5岁的孩子穿了两只不同的鞋子,或是你读高中的孩子把所有的零花钱都花在电子游戏上了。

但是,所有这些行为都是可以接受的——总有一天,孩子会忘记他的蝙蝠侠衣服,但是却会永远记住他的爸爸或妈妈非常尊重他的选择。


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